文档介绍：我们常常渴望获得他人的赞同与认可,这件事很有趣。不断纠缠拒绝我们的人是种不健康的模式,因为我们将自己的吸引力直接与他们的认可挂钩,所以我们一直试图成为更好的自己,或为他们做得更多来获得赞同,这同样也会改善自我感觉,就好像是他们的认可让我们变得足够好。
放弃那些放弃你的人
Stop Seeking Acceptance From People Who mitted to Not Accepting You
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It is fascinating how often we crave the acceptance and approval of those who won't accept us. It is an unhealthy pattern to continually pursue people who reject us. We do this because we see our lovability as directly related to their approval so we keep trying to be "better" or "do more." We do this so we can approve of ourselves through another person's approval of us, as if their approval finally makes us good enough. The healthiest way out of this pattern is to look at why we deeply believe we need the acceptance of those people. Do they determine our worth? Should we have to prove ourselves all the time only to hear we are not measuring up? If so, we are not picking the right people to have relationships with.
我们常常渴望获得他人的赞同与认可,这件事很有趣。不断纠缠拒绝我们的人是种不健康的模式,因为我们将自己的吸引力直接与他们的认可挂钩,所以我们一直试图成为更好的自己,或为他们做得更多来获得赞同,这同样也会改善自我感觉,就好像是他们的认可让我们变得足够好。走出这种模式的最佳方式就是审视为什么我们坚定地认为自己需要他们的认可。难道他们决定了我们的价值?难道只有一直被告知自己不够完美才能证明自己?如果这样,那就是择友失误。
5 realities about people
关于人际的五大事实
1. Some just aren't going to like us:In life, we should count on the fact there will be a certain percentage of people we meet who just won't like us. Instead of resisting this, simply accept it. Not everyone i